They have not eaten enough, if you do not oblige them to feed they will not grow – Starting from the certain data that Western populations assume an excessive number of calories compared to their consumption, any pediatrician will agree that when a child is hungry eats. There is, therefore, no danger of malnutrition in a child who does the whims , is temporarily unaffected or does not like a certain food. What should be imprinted is a healthy relationship with food , avoiding giving the food the double value of obligation-consolation.
That game is too dangerous, it will hurt – Except in certain cases, slides and games similar do not usually constitute a real danger for the children of the house. In fact, these are play structures designed specifically to ensure the safety of children. Obviously, children must always be controlled but at a distance. Avoiding any type of possible risk (for example, falling or blanching a knee), will only be useful to decrease the anxiety of the adult but will not be a good condition for growth. The latter, in fact, is a path that also requires mistakes, falling and getting up again.
It is not big enough to go out with friends – The age in which it begins with the “evening” autonomyit can not be determined in an equal way for everyone, rather it must be modulated taking into account numerous variables. Among the factors to consider: the individual’s degree of maturity of the subject, ability to manage unexpected events and different times of return calibrated according to age. Therefore, it is not the case of advancing no decisive, based only on maternal-paternal fear. But, by observing one’s child, one can decide when and how to make it more and more autonomous. Without external intrusions.
Do not send it on a school trip, cry all the time – Especially when a child is small, the tendency of grandparents is often to discourage any grant of autonomy, which seem excessive relative to the age of the child. An example, above all, is the school trip that includes more nights away from home. Or, the classic summer colony . One of the first factors to consider in this regard, is that these structures are not lager and that teachers (or educators, in general) are absolutely prepared for any eventuality. Moreover, it is true that children can cry because they miss their parents, but they are episodes of passengers, of crises that most often can be managed independently by the children themselves.
Better with grandparents than at the nest – A great classic, very controversial among mothers . If a woman needs to go back to work when the child is still small, he must feel free to choose what he considers most appropriate and suitable for the education of his child. If the mother wants the baby to stay with the grandparents , it is welcome. But if parents feel that the nest can be a better solution from the educational point of view, they should be able to choose without intrusion or family influences. The nursery school , in fact, is a place of growth, education and experimentation. A context of competence and quality, designed specifically for the serenity of the little ones. If the question raised by the grandparents concerns the frequency of illness, it is true that children will get sick often in the nursery but this will avoid the same routine of various diseases at school maternal.